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Time is a Gift

March 8, 2010 at 10:30 am | Posted in divorce | Leave a comment
Tags: build relationships, divorce, focus, Relationships, time, Time is a gift

 

You’ve heard the old cliche before, “Time is a Gift”.

But, to ask a divorced person if that is that is true, they may very well disagree. After divorce, “time” can seem quite the opposite of a gift, but more like an enemy.

There are days and nights that just seem to crawl agonizingly slow because of the loss that has occurred.

There are even some people, prior to the divorce who seemed to have had hardly a minute to spare and would wish for extra time during those previous day. But now, even for those, the day can’t seem to go by fast enough.

Divorce leaves people wishing for many things and one of those wishes is a rush for time to go by.

For those with that thought, the old adage “time heals all wounds” brings comfort.

Therefore, there are just pure wishes that the next day would come along for a chance at a brighter start.

Divorce can certainly be a major distraction, leaving hours, days, and months to pass with lack of focus. But Dr. John Gray, the author of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” states “when you sabotage yourself with unnecessary distractions, you throw away the very precious gift of time”.

His point is don’t waste the opportunity that has presented itself on losing focus on what’s important, YOU!

People going through divorce want to rush through the healing process and eliminate all of the grief that has been forced upon them.

But out of some of the darkest points in people’s lives, have come some of the greatest feats and triumphs.

The same can be true of divorce.

This is a time that you can use to forgive yourself for mistakes made and forgive others for theirs. A time to reassess your needs, your wants, and your desires. A time to regain your emotional strength and discover a new life within you.

It certainly is true that healing from divorce will take time. However, as with all situations in life, we can use time as a tool.

If you’re going through divorce, this time can be used to work on you, to focus on you, and to take the steps that to build a new life and build new and existing friendships.

Time spent with good friends and family is a good way to comfort the soul. They will understand your need for time to heal. They can provide you a consoling ear, a shoulder to cry on, and encouragement to take advantage of new opportunities.

Don’t let divorce rob you of time, but use this time to your advantage. If not, the only one who will be cheated, is you.

So use this time to build stronger relationships with your family and friends, but also the relationship with yourself, which is the most important of all.

Time knows no friends and knows no enemies. It is indifferent.

So we can’t expect time to be benevolent and work for us, but must find ways to take advantage of it and use it for our favor.

“Carpe Diem!”