I had a lady ask for my business card today. She wanted to talk to me to figure out if she should stay in her marriage of 25 years.
How many of you wonder whether or not to stay in your marriage or your relationship? You might find yourself stagnant and in a deep rut in your relationship and giving up on it might seem like the right thing to do.
So, what do you do?
Well don’t feel guilty about the feeling because it crosses most of our minds at some point, if not many points in time during our relationships.
It can be a very, very difficult decision to make. This takes alot of soul searching and weighing the costs and benefits of the relationship. To a large degree, the answer will be dictated by the value you place on marriage and what that commitment means. But, there are many other factors to be looked at including: what are the financial ramifications, how will this affect the children, where will you live after the break-up/divorce, how will you split up the assets, etc……..
There is not a single answer that can be given to field this question. It is “couple-dependent”. I’ve worked with couples that have decided to stay in their relationship and make it work, but I’ve also had people decide that they had to let the relationship go, because they felt like it was never going to work.
So, I’m not sure ultimately what the lady’s decision will be, but don’t feel like you’re alone if you are facing this dilemma as well. It’s a very common predicament and query.
Posted by Coty Evans 