Coach Coty's Blog

What Does Your Past Tell YOU?

I have to begin by saying I love coaching. It’s just an insanely rewarding passion that I have.
And when people find out I’m a relationship coach, I usually get a lot of questions, when they get me in a one-on-one conversation.

So, I was speaking to a gentleman today in a casual conversation. We talked about many things, including several of his life experiences and his contemplation of how and why he is the way he is.
I’m sure most of us have deliberated that a time or two, right?   : )

At first he began telling me about his various accomplishments and things he really thought were good qualities about himself. But that was shortly followed with him expressing some things that he thought were really stifling him.

Okay, so now let’s get to the catch.

How many of us have these stifling beliefs about ourselves????  Be honest!
How many of us let those beliefs thwart our visions, dreams, and aspirations in not only our professional lives, but also our personal lives.
Is it a wonder why our relationships suffer so often?

So, back to the gentleman. In less than 45 minutes, I had this man in joyful tears through the empowering words and questions I had for him. These thought provoking comments and questions caused a huge shift in his perception about these so-called “stifling beliefs,” the ones he was allowing to dictate his behaviors.

He felt immediate relief that this negative association could now be transformed to be of use and benefit to him, as I showed him how to turn it into a positive association.

It’s quite interesting how we operate and gain our thoughts and beliefs of ourselves.
What happens is we let our past create our reality.
Think about that for a minute.
The majority of people let their past, create their reality.

So, how about trying it a new way?
Let go of the past and let your present and future thoughts create your new reality.

How much better and different would your life be?