Coach Coty's Blog

The Secret

Tonya and I met a couple today. They had been married for 40 years. As is always, when we come across couples that have endured marriage for an extended period of time, we always ask:

So what is your secret?

They’re answer was never shout at each other and never argue in front of the children. So basically I asked them, it’s about respect right? They agreed that that was it.

Respect has to be a key component in any successful relationship. Without it, your relationship will be out of balance and most likely falter. So few couples have total respect in their relationships anymore. So, it’s no wonder the divorce rates are so high.

Tonya and I are always pleased to meet people that have been married so long and see the joy that they still have in their lives. It inspires hope and let’s face it without hope, there’s not much left.

As a Life coach specializing in coaching couples, I certainly know most of the rules that I should play by in order to make my relationship last. So, I hope that I can be as fortunate as that couple we met and have a long successful relationship too.